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Qing

Oct 11, 2020
7 min

Coming out is a privilege.

It has been a little over a year ago that I came out to my parents. I didn’t really know how to go about it or if I really needed to in t...

Qing

Sep 24, 2020
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Is it safe for me to date white women?

I remember waking up next to this white woman I had spent the night with, we always had a lot of fun and the sex was good. There was a le...

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Being a soft masculine-presenting Black woman on the dating scene

Qing

Aug 24, 2020
4 min

Being a soft masculine-presenting Black woman on the dating scene

Yeah, I’ve been on dates…many..many dates and I have had different experiences. I used various lesbian dating apps to get in contact with...

Identifying as a Soft Stud is a Radical Act.

Qing

Jul 30, 2020
3 min

Identifying as a Soft Stud is a Radical Act.

As I mentioned in my previous blog: The Identity of Self I touched upon how the society teaches Black women how to behave and how they a...

Qing

Jul 15, 2020
3 min

The Identity of Self

I have always been a person who dived into books when I had a question about myself or my surroundings. When I found out I was Gay (the w...

Qing

Jul 1, 2020
4 min

Finding yourself on Social Media.

I was always a tomboy growing up. Yet, through society and unconsciously because I was hanging out with my femme friends, I felt that I h...

Qing

Jul 1, 2020
3 min

Falling in love with yourself

I was never really into guys. Some I thought were quite good looking, I had a crush on this guy when I was about 11. I remember I liked t...

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Coming out is a privilege.

Is it safe for me to date white women?

Being a soft masculine-presenting Black woman on the dating scene

Identifying as a Soft Stud is a Radical Act.

The Identity of Self

Finding yourself on Social Media.

Falling in love with yourself

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Qingsland

Where Blackness, Queerness and Gender is met

through thought, reflection and expression.

The pictures on this website have been taken by Janella Kerr.

Instagram: @ayatah.ayatah.

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Qingsland

Where Blackness, Queerness and Gender is met

through thought, reflection and expression.

The pictures on this website have been taken by Janella Kerr.

Instagram: @ayatah.ayatah.

Smoke Image by Adrien Ledoux on Unsplash